“You must give up the life you planned,
in order to have the life that is waiting for you”
IN DUE TIME
A Journey through Infertility, Loss, and Embracing the Unknown
Creating and expanding a family the traditional way was not meant to be for Jen and her husband Patrick. After many agonizing months of negative pregnancy tests, and with medical assistance, they finally got a positive. When they were ready to expand their family, Jen assumed her body would know what to do. She was amiss.
This heartfelt memoir chronicles the most physically and emotionally demanding time in Jen’s life as she attempts to add to her family of three. She divulges intimate details of infertility testing and medication, miscarriages, intrauterine inseminations, chemical pregnancies, comprehensive chromosomal screening, in vitro fertilization, and frozen embryo transfers. An emotional mixture of hope, defeat, success, and loss, this honest and raw memoir depicts Jen’s tedious challenge to embrace the unknown.
“Equal parts information and inspiration!”
– KAELEIGH MACDONALD, blogger at Unpregnant Chicken
“A poignant memoir, filled with hope and loss and ultimate joy…”
– TONI WESCHLER, MPH ,bestselling author of Taking Charge of Your Fertility
“In Due Time is an invaluable companion and source of hope for those struggling with infertility.”
– Dr. Eric Surrey, MD, Reproductive Endocrinologist
Jen Noonan lives at the base of the Rocky Mountains in Denver, where she enjoys 300 days of sunshine a year. Although she was born and raised in Chicago, she is an honorary Denver native, having called the Mile High city home for more than a decade.
Jen has lived and worked in England and New Zealand, and has traveled to every continent except Antarctica. When she is not at Starbucks, she can be found running in Washington Park, hiking 14,000 foot mountains, reading on her front porch, jamming to Mumford and Sons, cleaning up after her husband, and chasing after two little boys.
Jen is a Licensed Professional Counselor and has a Master of Arts Degree in Counseling Psychology and Counseling Education from the University of Colorado Denver. She volunteers her time to infertility organizations, and is an active member of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine.
Secondary infertility resources can be hard to come by. I have listed many articles, books, websites, and podcast episodes.
What must it be like to be faced with the possibility of not being able to pass your genetics on to your child? For some, it might come as a relief. Perhaps they have always been concerned about their history of anxiety, or depression, and the thought of possibly not passing these on is desirable. Perhaps they were always bothered by their height, and the idea of choosing a taller donor is appealing.
It has been 6 years since we were informed our unborn baby did not have a heartbeat. Each time the anniversary rolls around, I try to busy myself with something fun and light hearted. We often take a long weekend road trip, or plan an activity away from home.
This is not to forget what happened. It is to be grateful for the life that I have now, and not dwell on the past and what could have been.