I didn’t know that the seven words I would hear next would rock my world for weeks, months, and years to come.
“I’m sorry, there’s no heartbeat.”
I visualize Mark Zuckerberg clicking post on his Facebook page, announcing to the WORLD that he and his wife endured three miscarriages, and were pregnant again. Some might be curious why he waited until they were far enough along this time. Why he didn’t reach out during the challenging times. My guess is that he was too vulnerable.
What happens when those of us who have sought social media support for infertility become pregnant? Some openly discuss their pregnancy. Others stick around, but don’t discuss their pregnancy. Still others disappear altogether. In this post I explore why I think each of these choices is valid.
I’m lucky, but I’m not: I absolutely love my young son, and truly appreciate the ability to have conceived him. However, I never imagined having only one child, and neither did my husband. My gut tells me that having two children is what is needed to complete our family. I know that those who are experiencing primary infertility would do anything to have just one child. Please try to put yourself in my shoes to see if you might just feel the same if you were in my situation.
We do our best to avoid offending those who attempt to build families. We are familiar with what NOT to say, but what about the following stereotypes?
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