The moment I stepped into the Share meeting and was embraced with a massive bear hug from the leader, I was understood. Although I had not yet introduced myself to anyone in the room, I knew for certain that they got me. They too had experienced loss. It didn’t matter how that looked; loss of embryos, early loss, second and third trimester loss, after birth loss. Loss was loss was loss.
In grad school, I was taught to be careful about self-disclosure with therapy clients. Not only had I self-disclosed about a challenging time in my life, but I had gone into major detail about it.
Was this the best course of action in reaction to my situation? Could it potentially hurt my career?
Not knowing what will happen in the future can be torturous. The unknown can throw you into a downward spiral if you let it.
It’s the mind that does it to us.
Our continuous thoughts of what the outcome will be.
Dr. Rodger’s defined secondary infertility as “Anybody who has had a pregnancy before, even if that pregnancy was a miscarriage or you needed fertility treatment…If you’ve been pregnant before and you’re trying to get pregnant again…Anybody who has had any kind of pregnancy.”
We walked one mile in support of those who are experiencing, have experienced, or will experience infertility – a series of small steps, each one filled with hope and a reminder that no one with infertility should walk alone. One Morning, One Mile, One Community.
In yesterday’s post, I mentioned that I was video interviewed by Valerie at Eggsperiences. She graciously allowed me to share my story, keeping an open mind throughout.
I love that despite the challenges that we’ve all been through, we can get to know one another to have a better understanding of where we’re coming from.
Here is the link – http://eggsperience.com/testimonial/jen-noonan/
When I was asked to be interviewed by Valerie at Eggsperiences, I was confused. After all, the title of her blog is “All Things Egg Freezing.” I didn’t freeze my eggs. I didn’t contemplate freezing my eggs. I didn’t even know that much about egg freezing when I would have ideally frozen my eggs. I agreed […]
As I set my laptop on top of my thighs, I started to go there – “Be careful of the radiation! Maybe you should set it somewhere else!”
In the not so distant past, this was one of many thoughts regarding my chances at conception. What should I be doing? What should I NOT be doing?
I have to admit how grateful I am that most of those thoughts are not currently a part of my life. However, there are those stubborn “after infertility thoughts and challenges” that do remain with me.
Abortion is something I rarely visualized before my miscarriage. It was something I never needed to contemplate. And I was never religious, so I didn’t take an automatic pro-life stance on the topic.
I suppose I just stuck my head in the sand.
To be completely honest though, the thought of getting pregnant in my early twenties caused me to at least consider abortion. And it scares me to think that back then I might have made that decision.
“Not a day goes by that I don’t think about my experience. The pain has lessened, but it hasn’t disappeared.”